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Post-writer’s conference overwhelm

6/10/2025

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Blue Ridge Mountain Christian Writer’s Conference 

The Blue Ridge Mountain Christian Writer’s Conference has been in my rearview mirror for a month now. Wow. I had quite a different experience than I did two years ago. Why? Mostly because my attitude changed. Or maybe, it was just the right time to move forward. Either way, I am grateful—for many reasons.

The venue was stunning as you see above. Although it rained every day of the 5 day conference, occasionally the clouds would part and allow us to view the mountain range. Despite the rain, the attendee's hearts were expectant and joyful as they interacted with fellow writers, staff, agents, and editors.

There were various reasons why each of us were present. Some hoped to win awards. Others had been praying for an agent to represent them, or an editor to publish their work. Just a chance for someone to notice their creative efforts would be appreciated. Others had come to present a class or workshop. Then there was the bookstore, full of published dreams for hopeful writers to read.
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This Year at BRMCWC Was Different

I wasn't overwhelmed. Well, maybe a bit the first day. But a guardian angel (a fellow attendee) walked me along a path from the auditorium to the cafeteria then to Mountain Laurel, where those all-important 15 minute appointments with agents, editors and seasoned authors were held. Not only did it help me get from place to place quicker, but the path was shielded from the rain. Yay!

This was a blessing since my head shot appointment was on the rainiest day of all! Christina Custodio made me feel beautiful and relaxed—the key to great photos. But let’s not forget the skills of the photographer. They are no light matter. Below is my ID mug shot. Even that one turned out well without touch up!
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What Does a Week at a Writer’s Conference Look Like?

Although I submitted my nonfiction work-in-progress for my silver-haired sisters, Flourishing & Fragrant, to the Foundations Awards (for unpublished works), I did not win. When I discovered there were over 700 entries, and only approximately 150 winners, I was not disappointed. I also was relieved I didn't need to make that journey up and down the stage and back to my seat. But I was ready, just in case.

When one of the agents I had singled out to meet with did not come to the conference, my heart sank. But I reminded myself at that moment, that God was still in control, and He had a reason.  I needed to trust in His sovereignty. Soon, I was at peace.

Thankfully, I did my homework ahead of time, and narrowed my choices down to three: two agents and one editor. But, the next morning, my guardian angel came to my rescue again and suggested I see another editor I had not considered, who had been added in at the last moment—and she had an appointment available. So, I signed up!

I want to mention here that for those writers just getting their toes wet in the publication waters, visiting an agent or editor is not recommended. Seasoned authors can give you insights into their publishing journey and tips to navigating that confusing and frustrating path. Choosing an author who writes in your genre will be more helpful as he/she can give you specific advice..
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Faculty were asked to sit at different tables during lunch and dinner to allow discussion for those who could not get an appointment. God directed me through my Aussie author friend Penny, to sit at her table. But because the only open seat was at the other end, I sat next to an acquisitions editor whom I had not considered. But God was working. In a very natural way, the editor asked what I wrote, so I gave him my one sheet summary of my book, bio and contact info. No fear, no worry, and no expectations. Just peace!
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My preparation for the conference: business cards, one sheets, and that all important schedule with my preferred classes marked!
What I enjoyed most was interacting with writers at different stages of their journey. Some were seasoned writers and speakers, and others who had a passion to write and were looking for insights and practical help with their chosen genre. There were historical and contemporary fiction authors, devotional and Bible Study creators, and nonfiction writers of all kinds, eager to glean from more experienced authors.

We chatted, gave each other encouragement or advice, and exchanged business cards in hopes to stay in touch via social media. Those that had attended the conference gave handy tips on navigating the grounds and schedule for the wide-eyed newbies. Writers met in classes, the Clouds Café, in the elevator and while waiting for the keynote to begin. We were all there for one reason—to grow in the gift God had given us as we determine His next steps. Sometimes that step is publication, navigating that intimidating chore we call marketing, or, quietly writing in our artist’s chair, sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s leading.

I was thrilled to find two of my Author Accelerator Book Coaching practicum students at the conference. Lindy (below) is a fellow historical fiction author who placed in the Foundations Awards for her Regency Romance novel from the Vicars & Viscounts Series. Lindy is quite the prolific author and I was proud of her achievement!
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There are No Guarantees in the Writer’s Life

   There was a bookstore to peruse, full of books written by presenters and attendees; a fun night of giggles, enjoying writers who paraded across the stage dressed as their chosen genre and an Selah and Foundations awards night for published and unpublished authors. Everyone was given the opportunity to shine.  

But alas, not everyone did. I'm sure more than one person (me) was disappointed. There are no guarantees in this challenging profession. I remind people of the ‘starving artist’ syndrome, not only a reality in past centuries, but also found today. As I discovered two years ago, having an agent or editor request your proposal or manuscript does not automatically mean your work will be published. But it does mean this: your work caught the interest of someone knowledgable in the field, and wants to see more. That's progress! Hopefully, this blogpost from the Blue Ridge Conference,  Beware of the Post-Conference Writing Blues will be an encouragement to you.

Where Was the Conference Overwhelm?

So where is the overwhelm I mentioned? For me, it was not at the conference. I had peace during all my appointments and truly enjoyed meeting up with agents and editors, knowing they were people too. I could rest in knowing God held my writing future in His hands, and nothing could thwart what He deemed best.

My overwhelm came when I returned home with four requests for my two proposals: my middle-grade historical fiction and nonfiction for seasoned women. After sending a thank you email to each one, I began the process of revising my proposals and MG novel, since both agents asked me to add a bit more detail to the proposals which would help in the selection process. In two more weeks, I was ready.

​The second overwhelm was realizing if both my proposals are accepted, and I am chosen for representation, I will be working full steam ahead for many years to come. That literally stopped me in my tracks. Is this really what I've been praying for? Is this the life I've been wanting? Up to this time, my writing has been done in between the many responsibilities at church and neighborhood, let alone dealing with a body that is slowly deteriorating due to arthritis.

But then, I had to remind myself (again) that God is sovereign and will not bring anything into my life that I cannot handle with His strength. I only need to trust. No need to worry. No place for overwhelm.  Only peace and contentment.

It’s All About Jesus

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​These miniature images of Jesus were planted all over the conference grounds in nooks, crannies and crevices. The 'instigator' of these images wanted the conference attendees to be reminded of the fact that Jesus is with us wherever we go. And He has a unique plan for each of us.  

​Are you a writer hoping to find an agent or editor for your precious manuscript? I trust that my words have been an encouragement to you. Never lose hope. God knows the right time to bring your writing gift to the world. While you are waiting, consider writing devotionals to inspire your readers with God’s grace and mercy.

How Can I Help You?

Here is a link to a list of Christian Writer’s Conferences for your perusal. I would highly recommend that you attend one at least every other year if possible. Many have scholarships for those who cannot afford the fee, but are serious about their writing.

​If you are struggling in your writing journey, let me know below how I can help. At best, I can pray for you!
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The Heart Changer Returns

1/24/2025

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Jarm Del Boccio, author of The Heart Changer

It's been a while since I've posted about my middle-grade biblical fiction, The Heart Changer. But February is the perfect month to mention it. I have 50 reviews now (if you are one of my reviewers, thank you!) and have had quite a few interviews both video and written. What an honor!

The Heart Changer Q&A


Here are a few questions from a Q&A a couple of years back. It gives you a good sense of the book and my reason for writing it:
What inspired you to write The Heart Changer?

I have a soft spot for kids in the Bible who have no name and backstory, but have made a huge impact on the people around them. With The Heart Changer, Naaman’s wife’s servant girl came to mind from 2 Kings 5. So, I gave Miriam a name AND a feasible backstory! I try to stay as close to the historical account as possible. Since my passion is to ‘breathe new life into the pages of history’ I delight in the ‘what-ifs’ and bring the story to life so children can relate to the Bible characters in a fresh way.
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Tell us about the themes found in the book.

There are many: Hope in the face of despair — The power of forgiveness —  God uses our trials to grow us into His likeness — He works all things together for good — Our lives are like a tapestry: we see the tangled underside, but God views it from the top, beautifully woven with purpose and depth. 

How can this book equip parents to guide their children into a love of God and the Bible?
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Not only is it a Biblical event found in 2 Kings 5, but its main character is a middle-grader, whose life was full of sorrow and angst, but her heart was changed by God so she could partner with Him on a very important mission that is even named in the NT in Luke 4:27. Kids can see that biblical characters go though struggles just as they do. They can know He loves them, and will use them to make a difference in people’s lives. Kids can be on mission with God! It makes the Bible real to them.

Do you know of a middle-grader who seeks to be on mission with God? The Heart Changer will inspire them!
The Heart Changer's MC, Miriam

What Would My Main Character Say?

Here are a few questions from Novel Pastimes Blog that I "asked" my  main character, Miriam. What kind of girl was she? In a way, she was very much like me, and looked like my daughter, above. To read the entire set of questions, click on Olivia's image above.
What is your heart’s deepest desire, Miriam?   

I know I can be selfish and hard-hearted at times, especially when it comes to chores. Obedience isn't easy, especially when I have to put aside MY wants and do the things my Ima has assigned to me. Although I love my baby brother, taking care of him is a full-time job. I can't go out and play on the hills with Jonas and my other friends when I’m responsible for him. 

I wished—no—I prayed I’d learn to be unselfish, not always wanting my own way. But that meant Jehovah God had to discipline me because He loves me. But I wasn't ready for what the future held—how it came about. I wanted my light to shine for Jehovah, no matter where I was, so when I was captured and sold to Naaman, the captain of the Syrian army, I learned the hard way. But, in the end, I made a difference in my master’s household. They now believe in the one true God!

What are you most afraid of? 

Losing my family and my home has been my greatest fear. They meant more to me than anything —well, except for our Abba Father in Heaven! But I held onto hope in those dark days of captivity. I discovered if you have hope, you have everything you need!

Do you know of a middle-grader who needs a dose of Hope?  It's a perfect gift for Valentine's Day!
Here are a few images relating to The Heart Changer and my book launch in 2019. . .

The Heart Changer Trailer

Have you seen the trailer for The Heart Changer? If not, click on the arrow below:

The Heart Changer is Now On Audible!

Click on the image below to find the audiobook. It's well narrated and captures the story beautifully!
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The Heart Changer Reviews

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Testimonies like these (above and below) make the challenging journey to authorship well worth it!

Why Do I Write?

Well, it's surely not for fame and fortune. I would be sorely disappointed! No, it's for the opportunity to encourage and inspire young minds with historic and biblical characters who, because they had courage to do what was right, can be heroic examples to follow. Even the most ordinary kid can make a difference in the world with the help of God.
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An Inspiring Book for the Middle-grader in Your Life


Valentine's Day is a good excuse to get a good book in the hands of a middle-grader who loves history, adventure and an inspiring story that will stick with them for a long time. The Heart Changer will help them to see the account of Naaman's wife's servant girl from 2 Kings 5 in a whole new light! Click on the image above to order The Heart Changer.

Question: Which book did you find inspiring as a young reader? Or how about now? Read any books lately that have inspired you to live a more faith-filled life? Let me know in the comments below, or reply to this email.

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!
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When things don't go as planned

2/25/2024

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When Dreams are Dashed


Everyone has disappointments—dreams dashed to the ground, along with their hopes. Not fun, is it? "Why me?" you and I say. Why not? No one is immune. We live in a sinful world with sinful people. But hold on. Sometimes, our dreams are smashed not because of an evil influence or mishap, but because God is orchestrating our lives, and has a better idea. 

***Please excuse the link format. For some reason, the website would not allow me to embed the links, but in retrospect, it fits with the theme of my post. Enjoy. . . 

This happened to me last week. I was attended the NRB modules.marriott.com/leisure/bnago-gaylord-opryland-resort-and-convention-center (National Religious Broadcasting) Convention  with high hopes that I might make good connections with podcasters or radio personnel who wanted to interview me about my middle-grade biblical fiction, The Heart Changer, or my work-in-progress for silver sisters who are stuck and need help moving forward as they age. I tentatively entitled it Flourishing and Fragrant: Living Abundantly in Your Seasoned Years. I also thought I might interest one of the four publishing houses, but only one showed any promise. But, that’s one!
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God’s Plan is Far Better


So, what happened?? Well, since no-one seemed interested in booking me for an interview, God nudged me to give away the 10 books I’d brought with me to a Representive at each booth featuring Israeli ministries. After all, my MC was an Israelite captive, wrenched from her home in a time of war, and forced to serve Naaman, commander of the Syrian army—well—brought to serve his wife, whom I named Adara. My desire was to bless some middle-grade Jewish/Israeli girl with a story of hope. So, although humanly speaking my dreams were smashed, God will bring a blessing from my book. 

While perusing the booths, I stopped at one giving samples of Beantage https://www.beantage.com/, coffee grown in Thailand. The girl was so sweet to talk about her product, then ask me why I was at the conference.  When I shared my book, she suddenly became animated. I could read joy all over her face! Ruth was an educator who loved reading, and desired to have good literature put in the hands of young students. In fact, she was a budding writer herself. I immediately encouraged her to look up AWSA (Advanced Writers and Speakers Association—the organization I was with at the conference) https://awsa.com/ where she could find support. As we finished our conversation, promising to connect in the future, I walked a few booths away, and then God nudged me (again) to give her my last copy of The Heart Changer. https://ambassador-international.com/books/the-heart-changer/ She was thrilled! It brought joy to my heart to encourage another educator who desires to put good books into the hands of young students, whether by purchasing or writing them. I just had to take a photo of this God moment!
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Another Rude Awakening


Although the Gaylord Opryland in Nashville https://modules.marriott.com/leisure/bnago-gaylord-opryland-resort-and-convention-center was a gorgeous hotel with tropical gardens, high-end shops and restaurants, the floorplan left something to be desired. For someone like me who has difficulty walking up and down stairs, this was not a user-friendly environment. Even though there were elevators available, one never knew which levels were accessible. There  were maps, but the atrium with its footpaths and bridges, made it a challenge to navigate. 

The Final Straw


Dreams of a smooth trip home were dashed when our first flight to Charlotte was delayed, thus making me late to my next connection, even though I walked fast, and used the moving walkway. So—I was routed via Myrtle Beach, a 1.5-hour journey from our home, where my husband met me at 10:30 pm. Oh, and did I mention my luggage didn't accompany me? Nope. It was arriving at midnight, so I told the agent I would not be waiting for it. Thankfully, they are prepared and brought to my home the next morning. Who knew? 

God did. And I was grateful He brought me safely home, albeit exhausted. One never can anticipate what will happen at any one time. But, I have a heavenly Father who cares, and works all things together for good.
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One fun note—Former President Trump was speaking at the NRB (I was not able to attend), so it was a treat to see his jet at the airport as our plane taxied out. I have a window seat passenger to thank for this photo!
What about you?? Have you had your dreams dashed lately? I'd love you to share your experience below. We can't expect everything to go smoothly in this life, but, if we belong to God’s family, He will turn it around for our benefit—and others!
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My word for 2024: savor

1/25/2024

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Savoring Life in General


It took me longer than usual to find my word for 2024. It was a few days before the New Year when I asked God to reveal it. By the time the “ball dropped,” it came to me: SAVOR. Was it an ad for a restaurant (we do have a breakfast place by that name in Wilmington) that brought it to mind? Maybe it was a devotional. I don't remember. But what I do recall was an “ahhhhh, yes—that’s it”!

Lately, I've noticed I'm slowing down. I think it's part of the normal process of aging. I can't multi-task anymore. I have a need to accomplish my tasks one by one, not three at one time. Normally, that would stress me, but lately, I'm enjoying that ‘one thing’ I’m working on at the time. There’s a calm in my day, and a spring in my step. It's a joy to accomplish those tasks because I don't feel pressed or rushed. Partly because I've learned to space out my appointments, tasks and errands. I try not to be out around the town more than once a day—or once every two days.

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Facing The unexpected on our nomad journey

9/21/2023

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Rat Snake

Unexpected Creatures


In an isolated tropical bush village in Papua New Guinea, one would expect to find creepy critters—and I did. Over 30 years ago, I went to PNG as a single missionary teacher. While there, I experienced millipedes, centipedes (the 4-6 inch kind with crablike legs), and spiders with bodies the size of golf balls (yes, you read that right).

But unexpected situations in North Carolina? No way! This is the USA. With temperate weather, an idyllic coastline, gorgeous sunsets, and stunning mountain vistas, who would expect creepy crawlies?? I soon found out! My first encounter was at Hickory Cove Bible Camp in Taylorsville. It was early summer, and the day was hot, so I wore my flip-flops on my .125-mile uphill trek to the camp mailbox. It was nearing dusk, so as I walked back to our cozy doublewide, I noticed something looking like a long tube stretched across two lanes on the country road. I kept walking, and then slowed. Wait. Was that a snake?? Yikes! Was it dead? Deadly? Ready to slither across the road as I passed by? Would he try to bite me? Oh, great. What a day to wear flip-flops!

I didn't ponder those questions for long. I moved steadily down the road without glancing over at the cold-blooded creature. And I survived. Later that week, I was told he was harmless and had a name: Frank or something similar. Evidently, he comes quite often to the camp, especially to the front porch of the double-wide we are staying in. What?? Snakes climb stairs??! Suddenly, I felt exposed. Unprotected. But still able to sleep at night. 

Until. . . 

We moved to Fort Caswell, just 50 minutes from our new home, where we are volunteering while we await our move-in date. It's a Baptist camp located at the end of a coastal peninsula, complete with lighthouse, and ships, ferries and fishing boats galore passing by throughout the day. Oh, and there are stunning sunsets, a wild breeze, and an array of seabirds along the shore, calling, catching prey, and sunning themselves on the dock. 

So, imagine how stunned I was to find a small snake laying across the threshold between the kitchen and living room in (yes, IN) our beach house (Note the pic at the top). Not knowing what it was, I immediately took a pic and asked my friends on Facebook if it was friend or foe. Turns out, it was a rat snake. Totally harmless. Well, unless, of course, you're a rat. 

We had a maintenance man from the camp come and find the source, after we had seen five of these snakes pop up in various rooms of the house—even on the second floor. (Yes, Mabel, it's true— they slither up stairs). He blocked up the hole with foam, and called it a day. Our relief lasted only a day or two, then three more showed up. So bizzare! To this day, we don't know how they get into our living quarters. Thankfully, they are all babies of various sizes.
Banana Spider

An Unexpected Web of Intrigue


One day, on our way to work in the cafeteria, we found this beauty just outside the back door. She graced the web like a star. I was shocked because I hadn't seen a spider that large (actual size) since my time in New Guinea. Again, I reached out to my Facebook friends, and they didn't disappoint. I was told it was a banana or orb spider, but both were harmless.

I breathed a sigh of relief until one of the interns showed me a pic of a hummingbird caught in the web of one such creature; life sucked out of him and spun into a coffin to eat later. So sad. Next thing you know, she will be catching rats! Even so, I'm making peace with her. Each time we enter the back door to the kitchen, we say hello. I'm calling her Asmerelda, which seems to fit a brightly patterned spider.
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Hide and Seek with Ghost Crabs


You'd think, with my aversion to spiders, I would be fearful of crabs. Not so. For some reason, I consider them comical and cute. Ghost crabs are also shy, and play hide and seek in the bushes. They  can be found on the beach at night, popping out of their holes in the sand. But have your flashlights ready—they move fast!
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Luminescent Lizards


And last, but not least are lizards. They do not strike fear in my heart. But I have been known to strike up a conversation with one, as I did this day. Lizzie is what I called her. And no, this is not a gecko. Their head is v-shaped and a gecko’s triangular. 
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A Creature of an Unexpected Kind


Although these foes are not alive, they are cause for concern. Sand Spurs are everywhere, so footwear is essential. It is not pleasant to step on one, and they are a challenge to pick out of rugs and shoes without sticking oneself. At least they are not poisonous, nor do they bite.
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Unexpected Challenges


Although we realize it's hurricane season, we expected to be safe inside our comfy beach house, just yards away from the Intracoastal inlet. Each day, the tide flows in and out (four times a day, evidently), but only in a tropical storm or hurricane is there danger of flooding. We are thankful God has spared us from this disaster so far.  But there is another source of possible flooding: water dripping from the porch roof and onto the inside window frame. Here, you can witness our attempt at preventing pools of water in our downstairs kitchen/living room during tropical storm Ophelia. Ahh, yes. The coastal life. 
Jarm Del Boccio, author and hubby, Dan

An Unexpected Pleasure


All in all, we are thriving and even enjoying our volunteer work here at Fort Caswell. The setting is relaxing, the staff friendly and helpful, and our kitchen duties workable for our aging bodies. Plus, we have the pleasure of experiencing the hurricane season near a body of water, witnessing the effects firsthand.

God has been good to us every step of our nomad way. But more on that next month. He is teaching us to trust Him in all situations, proving once again--He is enough. 

Have you experienced a hurricane? What about a creature invasion? Let me know below!
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Filling our lives with things that satisfy

8/26/2023

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Conference Point Camp

IS IT WORTH THE WORK? THINGS THAT SATISFY

I never would have guessed that a preschooler would teach me an important lesson about things that satisfy. This past July (and every July for the past 31 years) my hubby and I attended a family Bible Camp at Conference Point in Wisconsin. Our days were full of worship, good food, fellowship, and teaching from God’s Word. And of course there was fun in the sun— everyone’s favorite activity.

As I would rather be on the lake instead of in it, I was satisfied with a front-row seat on the beach where I could people-watch (one of my favorite activities). Kids and adults of all ages enjoyed swimming, diving, playing tag, sunbathing, and chatting. Some were floating on the surface of the water in an inflatable chair. 

However, only a subset of attendees were actually satisfied with working during their vacation, and I found that curious. It was the toddlers and preschoolers who were busy digging trenches and building forts, while the older crowd took it easy. One young girl, early on in her task, worked alongside two boys digging a long trench perpendicular to the beach. After a while, the boys got bored and left. But the girl? She soldiered on, like she was engaged in a marathon. Intent on her job, the tike journeyed to and from the lake, filling her bucket with water, pouring it into the trench and then padding back to the lake to fill it again. She must have made the trip 12 times before I lost count.

But what I did note was this: as soon as she'd turn to fetch more lake water the last bucketful would begin slowly seeping into the sand. So by the time she returned, the water had disappeared. 
Little girl filling a trench with buckets of water taken from Lake Geneva, Wi

FRUITLESS EFFORT TO SATISFY

I wondered how long it would take before she realized her efforts were fruitless—that no matter how many times she filled the trench, it would never hold water?

Well, soon after I contemplated this, she stopped at one point to examine her work, a puzzled expression forming on her face. I could just imagine her inner thoughts: “What happened to all that water? I know I poured lots in—where did it go?”

And then it happened. The realization was too much. So, with determination, she took a breath and threw the bucket on the sand, then stomped away. Ahh, the youngster finally understood. She had expended all that effort for nothing!
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It was a lesson for me, too. How many times had I put energy into something I thought would satisfy, only to be disappointed? A new self-help book that will change my life. A pair of shoes with an arch the ads say will allow you to walk all day in comfort. Classic wicker furniture for our screened-in porch that will fit perfectly. A visit to a nearby tourist spot that promises good food and even better shops. 

In reality, the book is shallow and unhelpful. The shoes rub in the wrong places. The wicker furniture is too big for the spot. Most restaurants and shops in the touristy areas are closed on Sunday. 


And so on. . . 

REAL SATISFACTION

So what does satisfy? Really, only Christ can satisfy. He has made you and delights in you. He wants what's best and knows what's best for you. Pouring yourself into people and digging into and meditating on God’s Word will change your life. It will bring you peace and contentment. Here’s what the book of Isaiah has to say:
​Isaiah 58:11-12
“And the LORD will guide you continually
and satisfy your desire in scorched places
and make your bones strong;
and you shall be like a watered garden,
like a spring of water,
whose waters do not fail.
And your ancient ruins shall be rebuilt;
you shall raise up the foundations of many generations;
you shall be called the repairer of the breach,
the restorer of streets to dwell in.”
Wow! Can you think of anything more satisfying than to repair the breaches in this world? To restore relationships? To make a difference in people’s lives?

Each one of us has a sphere of influence that no one else holds. Start today—with a friend, a college student or a grandchild. Take them out for a treat. Offer to help them with a problem. Tell them they are in your prayers.

Invest in things that will last. Things that satisfy. Not stuff and meaningless activity, but people. It will renew your heart and give you a fresh perspective on life. 

​Begin today!
Can you think of one person to encourage or one ministry to engage in that will bring deep satisfaction to your soul? Let me know in the comments below. . .
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Rain will fall: how do you handle life’s challenges?

6/25/2023

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How do you handle challenging times by Jarm Del Boccio

Challenges are Sure to Come


“Into each life some rain must fall.” —Allan Roberts 

Yep, it’s true. No one goes through this world unscathed. Troubles are sure to fall like rain, whether we want them or not. So, if that’s the case, how should we respond?


​As far as I can tell, there are only three ways. (If you can think of more, please enlighten me in the comments). You can either resist them by pretending they don’t exist, fight them angrily (blaming others in the process), or accept them, letting the challenges wash over you, knowing that somehow, they will transform you into a better person. 
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Challenges Are For Our Good


​But, accepting them is not so easy, is it? We want to squirm out of them, side step them or squash them, right? If we are a child of God, though, we know He has a plan for our lives, and ultimately, our goal is to reflect our Father. ​

​Sometimes, He uses the ‘controlled burn’ to conform us. Just enough challenges to kill the wayward parts like impatience and jealousy, so new seed can grow into hardy plants that will bear a good harvest (remember the fruits of the spirit?)
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Not only do trials make us more like Christ, but when we accept them and allow them to strengthen our faith, in the end, it will bring honor His name. Check out the verses below. ​. .
​1 Peter 1:6-7
So be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you must endure many trials for a little while. These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold—though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world.
Occasionally, we are the reason for the hard times. I know I have used a harsh word in the past, or avoided the truth when asked. I’ve even been jealous or critical, which leads to discontent and depression. No one sees it, of course, but Jesus does. He knows what’s in my heart. And at times, it’s not pretty—and I’m sure it makes Him sad. ​

Challenges Make Us Stronger


How many of us pray for challenges and trials? Scary idea, eh? But, consider this--we can speed up our goal of being Christ-like by putting ourselves into a situation that requires trust in our Heavenly Father. When everything is going well, why would we need to call out to Jesus?

I have done this a few times in my life. Sometimes, it’s being brave to talk with and editor or agent about my latest project. Other times it’s stepping out in faith, literally, as I walk across a mile-high swinging bridge, or climb a ladder like the one below. You see, I’m afraid of heights. But I was determined to move forward in faith. And I’m glad I did!

I’m not sure if it’s my age (I’m less intimidated), or that my desire to be conformed to Christ’s image is front and center in my heart right now. That, too, could be due to my age, since I have more years behind me that ahead of me.

This nomad journey has at times been a challenge. My time isn’t my own. Neither is my space. And don’t even talk about the issue of mail delivery when we move every few weeks. It’s a nightmare! One thing is for sure. I will appreciate our townhome So, Much. More. when our nomad life is done.

Whoa. I just thought of something. After dealing with this earthly life and our sinful nature all our lives, it will be So. Incredibly. Amazing. to finally step into Heaven and know we are FINALLY HOME and free of all that hinders us!

​How have you seen God transform your struggles into something good? Let me know in the comments below!



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